Why are we so scared of our partner’s female friends?
I know what you might be thinking. “Why would my boyfriend need female friends? Isn’t he supposed to be emotionally supported by me?” Hear me out before dismissing this.
It’s absolutely true that you and your partner should be best friends and confidants, that’s what makes a strong relationship. But what happens when he’s really mad at you? The kind of upset where he can’t talk to you without feeling blocked or misunderstood?
And please don’t say, “He would talk to me” or “He needs to talk to me” of course he does, but not always in that exact moment. That’s where we often get it wrong. As women, we tend to expect instant responses and want to process emotions by talking things through right away. Men, however, don’t usually process their feelings in the same way. Sometimes, they need space and time to work through emotions internally.
There will be moments when he just doesn’t want to be around you, not because he doesn’t care, but because he’s still sorting out what he’s feeling. And you know who’s often better company in those moments than any guy friend? A female friend and no, I’m not talking about a woman secretly in love with him, but a true friend, someone who understands the…